Yes being called anything without knowing your full situation is uncalled for, and even in rare circumstances is name calling ever appropriate. Being a dependent of a service member has it battles and burdens that you never got a vote it. Especially the kids. (To make it clear I am not a dependent, but I have seen the very real struggles of my own, and as a father it does break my heart)The best advice I can give you is to ask your Dad if he is willing to, is to share his medical records with you. Share his military evaluations with you. Then you can be your best detective, see what MOS he held, what equipment he worked on, where and when he was deployed. Then cross reference that with known toxic exposures of materials, operations, elements, vaccines, etc. Then cross reference that with known studies from the CDC, NIH, or WHO with your symptoms. Because you are right a lot of toxic exposures DO get passed on through the male reproductive organs and damage YOUR DNA. This has been well documented and recently brought to light because of the Flint, Michigan Pb exposure. And there is solid science behind it from reputable organizations. Just don't get suck in to the conspiracy sites, stick with the hard sciences. Because I take your post as someone just looking for answers, trying to figure it out, why you feel shitty. And a father would never knowingly pass anything like that on to his kids. Hope this helps.